tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post116324390418986847..comments2023-10-30T14:26:47.315+05:30Comments on Hip Hop Grandmom: Changing TimesHip Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1164089892784387412006-11-21T11:48:00.000+05:302006-11-21T11:48:00.000+05:30i personally think this one is a change for good.....i personally think this one is a change for good... and wish more and more rajni's turn in riya's :) <BR/><BR/>i behaved like a strong riya myself taking the full charge of situation and actually going a searching for a guy too myself on one of the online marriage portals, not that i didn't meet boys that parents choose but ofcourse the meeting was different starting from emails, graduating to phone calls and finally meeting to see if we really gel with each other. <BR/><BR/>times have really changed and the pressures are too many with both the partners working really hard and i think knowing each other before u actually tie the knot becomes really importantMonikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02627040210376581730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163678021824678982006-11-16T17:23:00.000+05:302006-11-16T17:23:00.000+05:30Welcome changes in every age. Things are changing ...Welcome changes in every age. Things are changing for the better although not at the pace we would like them to.And the nice thing is when parents can welcome and embrace positive changes in the attitudes of the children in stead of comparing it with their times.Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163652978819812932006-11-16T10:26:00.000+05:302006-11-16T10:26:00.000+05:30yes..very very...yes..very very...Kalpanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04626034227089936767noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163603952895439812006-11-15T20:49:00.000+05:302006-11-15T20:49:00.000+05:30I agree passerby--the word ;compromise' seems to h...I agree passerby--the word ;compromise' seems to have ugly connotations for GenX. But there's no life without that. If these kids thought about it it's the same as 'there are no free lunches' and 'win some lose some'. Happiness comes only when we think of others and when we can compromise I think.hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163596996397119692006-11-15T18:53:00.000+05:302006-11-15T18:53:00.000+05:30passerby:yes values differ with each generation an...passerby:yes values differ with each generation and one has to move with times.The inauguration went off well.Our building committee actually managed to save 17 lakhs that is to be used to build an exam hall.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163552659455683622006-11-15T06:34:00.000+05:302006-11-15T06:34:00.000+05:30"My college has reopened and a new building was in..."My college has reopened and a new building was inaugurated yesterday"..<BR/><BR/>How was the inauguration? It must have been a happy feeling i am sure<BR/><BR/>byepasserby55https://www.blogger.com/profile/17788718555377390569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163552489463709292006-11-15T06:31:00.000+05:302006-11-15T06:31:00.000+05:30the two women laughed heartily...Now was that a sa...the two women laughed heartily...<BR/><BR/>Now was that a sarcastic one....preeta!<BR/><BR/>you and me know very well, whatever way you approach it, it is in the end being happily married matters.<BR/><BR/>Now, happiness i think itself means different to GenX....what we were happy with, that is compromise according to them... they will not compromise they say...<BR/><BR/>But marraige was never compromise, i wondered why these feelings came into gen X<BR/><BR/>Preeta, maybe a survey be done to find out which method bought about more successful marriages (by success i mean, still married with the same and found happiness somewhere, the way each of us wanted to be happy)<BR/><BR/><BR/>Thankyou.passerby55https://www.blogger.com/profile/17788718555377390569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163502926447639682006-11-14T16:45:00.000+05:302006-11-14T16:45:00.000+05:30something to say:welcome here.glad you see yoursel...something to say:welcome here.glad you see yourself in my story.My observations are good I can see.<BR/><BR/>visitra:Thanks.Glad you liked it.<BR/><BR/>hillg'mom:Your mother's 'girl seeing might have been like Rajni's.It is based on my aunt's experience.We love hearing the story over and over again.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163492154273161772006-11-14T13:45:00.000+05:302006-11-14T13:45:00.000+05:30well, the 'girl seeing' for me was not like your s...well, the 'girl seeing' for me was not like your story anyway hipgrandmom--too young for one and too old for the other:) But I want to say that all three of my children got married to people they found themselves and they are all lovely people and funnily enough from our community & everything although the children knew we would accept whoever they chose. So it depends on the people involved I think.hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163472569259666972006-11-14T08:19:00.000+05:302006-11-14T08:19:00.000+05:30well written as alwayswell written as alwaysVisithrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525994382867482657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163435594042700492006-11-13T22:03:00.000+05:302006-11-13T22:03:00.000+05:30Great reading hiphopgrandmom. I used to be Riya -...Great reading hiphopgrandmom. I used to be Riya - career, achievement, the works. Also did a Riya on my parents - when a boy wanted to "see" me. Funnily, like Preetaji in your story - the boy's mom wanted us to meet outside. Its almost as if you've written my story so far.Something to Sayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03568614313809544638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163426255080025852006-11-13T19:27:00.000+05:302006-11-13T19:27:00.000+05:30nz:welcome here.Rajni is a real person tho' the na...nz:welcome here.Rajni is a real person tho' the name has been changed.Riya is an imagined add on.as you say both riyas and rajnis abound.glad you still visit Jampot.<BR/><BR/>artnavy:No riya is an extension of my imagination but I won't be surprised if she turns out to be my DIL.<BR/><BR/>ITW:Our system of arranged marriage would've worked fine if the dowry menace hadn't spoilt things.<BR/><BR/>inder:oh yes!arranged marriages are not completely wiped out.In fact parents are arranging for daates for their children in USA.<BR/><BR/>vin:times are changing fast and riya's sister or brother could do it.<BR/><BR/>balaji:It ultimately depends on individuals to make marriage work.<BR/><BR/>amit:adjustments are made in everyy walk of life as also in marriage.Riya or rajni both groups have to do iHip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163425990053811992006-11-13T19:23:00.000+05:302006-11-13T19:23:00.000+05:30This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163422483026131022006-11-13T18:24:00.000+05:302006-11-13T18:24:00.000+05:30Nice anecdote. I think there are merits and demeri...Nice anecdote. I think there are merits and demerits in both these systems. It is a good story if you are going to a good house with good inlaws to take care. But what if the family is not good (or) doesn't take care of the teenage girl as they should have? Then she will also become one like them isn't it? Since teenage is the most impressionable age, you will learn good or bad during this only more than any other time. What will happen in this situation?Balajihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03835374955490731007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163415937988605122006-11-13T16:35:00.001+05:302006-11-13T16:35:00.001+05:30Like the article !!.. it was too gudLike the article !!.. it was too gudVinutha and Lingarajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05170120292557307162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163415920084725852006-11-13T16:35:00.000+05:302006-11-13T16:35:00.000+05:30I think times r here to change.. :-).... and durin...I think times r here to change.. :-).... and during Riya's kid's times.. things will b much more different.. :-)Vinutha and Lingarajhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05170120292557307162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163415546860392022006-11-13T16:29:00.000+05:302006-11-13T16:29:00.000+05:30i wonder if arranged or the family-initiated marri...i wonder if arranged or the family-initiated marriages are still in practice... people choose their life-partners at their office, college and even in school.<BR/>anyway, that is a wonderful narration :)Inderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10818943412434096121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163414139449937672006-11-13T16:05:00.000+05:302006-11-13T16:05:00.000+05:30i guess both methods had their meritsand of course...i guess both methods had their merits<BR/>and of course all's well that ends wellItchingtowritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00763940951418027045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163405873552786952006-11-13T13:47:00.000+05:302006-11-13T13:47:00.000+05:30Is Riya your DIL now? And yes you got my name righ...Is Riya your DIL now? And yes you got my name right.<BR/><BR/>Your last para was superb.Artnavyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15060564468230843716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163399396091185652006-11-13T11:59:00.000+05:302006-11-13T11:59:00.000+05:30Another intresting read like all your previous pos...Another intresting read like all your previous posts.Like all generation there is also gap in thought process of our generation and our parents generation,perhaps more than earlier gaps(but good news is that both of us have understood and accepted the gap as fact, perhaps the first step to bridge the same).At the end of day everybody want to be happy.Personally i dont like use of word 'compromise', i think its negative in connotation. 'Adjustment' is better word, which does require in any relationship to succed. I look for compatabilty in my future wife, and i do believe that she has full right to assess me as husband to be, as well.<BR/>By the way my parents as still in Jampot and i visit Jampot regularly.Amit R Vermahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12748827205715613115noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163369150672978172006-11-13T03:35:00.000+05:302006-11-13T03:35:00.000+05:30That was another interesting story Hipgmom :-) The...That was another interesting story Hipgmom :-) There are lots of Riyas all around us but Rajnis are fast becoming extinct ! Times are changing and every system has its own merits and demerits. Its sad that in the families where the older system is still in place, there they also have a huge price tag attached to the prospective grooms and so many unrealisitc expectations too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163352343647122952006-11-12T22:55:00.000+05:302006-11-12T22:55:00.000+05:30velu:I meant to highlight the merits of the older ...velu:I meant to highlight the merits of the older system.Looks as if I haven't succeeded.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-1163325334204845522006-11-12T15:25:00.000+05:302006-11-12T15:25:00.000+05:30Oh yes, the times have changed indeed!! But theres...Oh yes, the times have changed indeed!! But theres still a whole lot of girl-meeting going on all around, I guess. My friend whos a software engineer had gone to 'take a look' at a girl, just the other day. Wish there were more Riyas around...<BR/><BR/>:)Movie Mazaahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02795149371701803414noreply@blogger.com