tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post1199812836304435275..comments2023-10-30T14:26:47.315+05:30Comments on Hip Hop Grandmom: Abusive relationships (Contd.)Hip Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-3610334380050708612020-06-01T18:37:13.399+05:302020-06-01T18:37:13.399+05:30I can't stop thanking Dr Ekpen for helping me ...I can't stop thanking Dr Ekpen for helping me to get my ex back, with Dr Ekpen spell you can get your ex back no matter how long the separation as been. Contact Dr Ekpen today on (ekpentemple@gmail.com) to help you get your ex backAngelikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08009188519975561058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-3489105934113682352018-07-18T08:01:15.809+05:302018-07-18T08:01:15.809+05:30I feel so blessed again in my marriage after Docto...I feel so blessed again in my marriage after Doctor Mack brought back my husband that separated with me for good 3 months. Am Jessica Butler by name from Los Angeles. Even though i have mouths all over my body, it won't be enough to thank Doctor Mack for his help upon my life. My husband separated with me for the 3 months and have been in pains and agony without him. So, i searched for help everywhere but nothing worked out not until i meant Doctor Mack who i contacted online. I explained my situation to him and he promised that my husband will get back to me within 24 to 48 hours as far that my heart still beats for him. I believed in him and he prepared a spell for me and my husband called me exactly when Doctor Mack said. He pleaded and said he needs me back and now we are living happily again for the past 9 months. Everyone out there reading my article that needs help should contact him... Email: dr_mack@yahoo.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08407578870851039378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-84165325090169329492010-02-28T08:40:59.053+05:302010-02-28T08:40:59.053+05:30I dont know why breaking off a relationship requir...I dont know why breaking off a relationship requires justification to people who had no say in its formation. We seem to forget that relationship is an act of convienince. Its a mutually agreeable arrangement, therefore if it doesnt seem to work between 2 parties , it logically shud be dissolved. I do agree that like in any relationship, a certain amount of compromise , tolerance, give and take shud exist. If the concerned parties are incapable of that then I would say that they are not ready for something as complex as a relationship which to a large extent involves modifying the self to accomodate another.<br /><br />in my book, every relationship is abusive.It just varies in degrees. <br /><br />(iam going to deny all this if mads reads this :)...)Tys on Icehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09718530428063102986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-38471248237441481122010-02-24T19:42:43.973+05:302010-02-24T19:42:43.973+05:30How true P . Abusive relationships have to be reso...How true P . Abusive relationships have to be resolved only by the people involved . If one chooses to end it then it should be honoured . <br />P I havent had the time to do the tag although I did start one . Apologies .Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157665564024320442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-31905791341056483962010-02-23T10:47:25.270+05:302010-02-23T10:47:25.270+05:30shuchita:Nice to hear that whatever I write impres...shuchita:Nice to hear that whatever I write impresses youngsters like you.Each time I think of winding up my blog a comment such as yours peps me up and I start anew with increased enthusiasm. i have however begun to feel that I am becoming repetitive. you are welcome to write to me anytime. my id is knrpadma@yahoo.com as well as padma.ramcha@gmail.com however I regularly check the former.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-8122506380978779062010-02-23T05:04:30.381+05:302010-02-23T05:04:30.381+05:30Dear Hip Grandmother,
I came to your Blog via the...Dear Hip Grandmother,<br /><br />I came to your Blog via the Indusladies link, but I found it so nice to read that I started all the way from the first post and finished on this one.<br /><br />I love the way you write, but more than that I love your attitude. I am young girl, less than half your age, and I hope I will be able to face life with the optimisim that you have shown. I am married and currently living in Melbourne. But i was born and brought up in Jamshedpur where my father worked in Tinplate. Your blog brings back fond memories of my city.<br /><br />Thankyou for sharing all these amazing stories with us.<br /><br />If it is not too much trouble, I would like to mail you sometime.simplyshuchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05859884094604686956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-36308647956157485732010-02-20T19:41:45.716+05:302010-02-20T19:41:45.716+05:30hillgmom:when I talk of inner strength that is exa...hillgmom:when I talk of inner strength that is exactly what i mean.confidence is absolutely essential to tackle problems one faces in life including an abusive relationship.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-6789422932640220692010-02-19T21:35:51.024+05:302010-02-19T21:35:51.024+05:30HHG, my personal opinion is that if the woman has ...HHG, my personal opinion is that if the woman has some kind of self-confidence, she is able to walk out of an abusive relationship, or a cheating husband. But if she is a person with no self-confidence, she would feel that she was incapable of fending for herself and may even feel she deserves some of what she gets!! Of course having a good education is always a help.hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-35298933607063153942010-02-19T19:49:34.328+05:302010-02-19T19:49:34.328+05:30Usha:Thanks for doing the tag. I read your post an...Usha:Thanks for doing the tag. I read your post and commented too. It was an insightful post and I do hope we are able to take positive steps in this direction.<br /><br />Anon:You may be right but it could also be that KS felt inadequate as a husband and resorted to drugs and alcohol to conceal his shortcomings rather than work towards improving himself. An inferiority complex can ruin a marriage in ways that cannot be explained.<br /><br />apu:Support of other people cannot help unless it is supplimented with a will to resist abuse. In the examples quoted in the previous post as well as this one J and G did have family support but the final decision was their own. In the case of Sa society and her own family did not support her decision. But she stuck to her decision to call the marriage off. So the will to tackle a difficult situation need more than anything else, a strong will.<br /><br />Smi:The mental tuning of the girl child is such that it is difficult to imagine life without the protection of a husband - so what if he beats one up each and every day. I hear of a mother whose husband used to get drunk and beat her up in front of her grown up sons. The older one would offer himself on her behalf. When he left home to study he deputed his younger brother to take care of things. This is not a cooked up story believe me and the couple belong to the upper rung of society and are very well off. Any explanation for this kind of sub servience?<br /><br />starry eyed:There comes a time when one's patience is tried to the maximum and nothing matters. Most of these women have decided that nothing matters anymore and they step out of an abusive relationship because they can take no more of it. As for the sufferers, they have their own valid reasons which to an outsider seem absurd. That is why we need to be understanding of the victim whether she opts out or remains in an abusive relationship.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-923255887976236822010-02-19T13:46:33.109+05:302010-02-19T13:46:33.109+05:30Liked your post. I'm glad to read that these w...Liked your post. I'm glad to read that these women made it despite all the odds. I wish we could figure out what it is that gives some women the strength to stand up and walk out even without any support, while others who would have all the support they needed suffer more abuse in the name of love and devotion?starry eyedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821016011330573083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-4208903368531974932010-02-19T09:42:11.429+05:302010-02-19T09:42:11.429+05:30HHG, I do agree with you that ultimately a strong ...HHG, I do agree with you that ultimately a strong will is needed from the victim, else she cannot survive. However, don't you think this will is strengthened if she knows other people will support her?<br /><br />Thanks for tagging me btw - my response is here - http://apusworld.com/blog/2010/02/on-abusive-relationships-and-other-things-too/apuhttp://apusworld.com/blognoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-58699104501913101282010-02-19T07:59:11.373+05:302010-02-19T07:59:11.373+05:30Hi,
In the second case, it may be that KS started...Hi,<br /><br />In the second case, it may be that KS started taking drugs and alcohol only after broken marriage which is common in weak men, when no one is there for them and as they feel rejected.<br /><br />I'm not sure can it be concluded, that Sa broke the marriage for that reason; maybe she found him not suitable as she grew.<br /><br />This is just My opinion.<br /><br />MBAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-34622980771410904402010-02-18T22:43:29.962+05:302010-02-18T22:43:29.962+05:30Hi, Thanks for tagging me. IO posted my entry here...Hi, Thanks for tagging me. IO posted my entry here:<br />http://agelessbonding.blogspot.com/2010/02/we-shall-overcome-someday.html<br />but I cannot link it in the comments section in the Indusladies site, I cannot comment there. What do i do?Ushahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00179239922869639391noreply@blogger.com