tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post1767090523727679098..comments2023-10-30T14:26:47.315+05:30Comments on Hip Hop Grandmom: Old age Blues......Hip Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-44542462606243137262018-11-04T09:33:15.408+05:302018-11-04T09:33:15.408+05:30It's ironic. That some people are suffering fr...It's ironic. That some people are suffering from boredom, while others are killing themselves because they don't have the resources to live a life of dignity.<br />Some elderly people were never lucky to have a spouse or children. Some elderly people are widows AND they are taking care of adult children with lifelong disabilities.<br />Just waiting for their miserable lives to end. <br /><br />And instead of the fortunate people sharing their resources with the lesser fortunate, they often give them empty, dry philosophical discourses on positivity. "Be strong, be brave, there is a reason for everything. Suffering makes you stronger. God has a higher plan, blah blah blah"<br />Better to euthanize someone, than torture them with such fake positivity.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-67105571337584955212017-08-20T00:10:03.055+05:302017-08-20T00:10:03.055+05:30thank youthank youold agehttp://healthy-woman.tk/very-bad-things-that-can-happen-to-your-vagina-in-old-age/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-48474050289918391242017-06-16T21:08:57.792+05:302017-06-16T21:08:57.792+05:30SSS: I appreciate your concern for your parents. W...SSS: I appreciate your concern for your parents. Whatever be your predicament never let go of the feeling that a kind word from you would make a lot of difference in their lives. I can understand what your parents are going through. Their stamina is not the same as it was some 7/8 years back.They have slowed down. I know that I have.I am not into reading or sewing as much as before. Managing house work and cooking for the two of us is all that I manage to do these days. But the moment someone needs my help I get an energy boost and my lethargy vanishes.At my age I just wish to be included.<br /><br /> Continue to appreciate the fact that they are available for you when you wish to turn to them for guidance. Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-21195214781127522017-06-12T20:34:11.643+05:302017-06-12T20:34:11.643+05:30Hi Hip-hop Grandma,
I have been reading your blog ...Hi Hip-hop Grandma,<br />I have been reading your blog since a couple of years now. I really enjoy reading your blog posts. This post is something which touched me in a way which I cannot explain. <br />I am 32 years old. I stay in Kolkata with my In-laws. My parents are staying in a different city in a different state. They are old now. I travel every month, at-least once, to take care of their medicines/doctor visits etc. <br />My father can take care of these things, but I do not want to tire him. My mother had gone through a major spine surgery couple of years back. Though she can move around the house, but she needs help with other works. I cannot be with them 24 hours and that bothers me a lot. They are not financially dependent on me. But I have nightmares of something bad happening to them when I am not there. Some nights, I cannot sleep at all. These things come to mind every now and then. I was in the US for 6 months and it bothered me so much that I did not continue there and took an immediate transfer to India as I can travel within a couple of hours to them in case of any emergency from Kolkata.<br />I try to convince them to have some hobby so that they can spend their time. But somehow, it seems they are not interested. I can differentiate the time just 7-8 years back and now. Then they used to enjoy life. Now, somehow they are just waiting to get rid of this life. <br />I feel so restless and I do not know whom to talk to and how to handle these situations! I know, this is life, but I cannot help myself!<br />Reading your post, somehow made me post a comment here. SSSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-54263430894685018242017-03-07T19:49:58.271+05:302017-03-07T19:49:58.271+05:30Anon: It is comments such as yours that gets me ba...Anon: It is comments such as yours that gets me back in the writing mode. I think I will start writing again.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-48652637572360843812017-01-27T21:12:27.337+05:302017-01-27T21:12:27.337+05:30Hip hop why did you stop writing?Hip hop why did you stop writing?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-55581723601450741002016-10-21T15:11:32.243+05:302016-10-21T15:11:32.243+05:30This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17532112687067702445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-70530571641054017242016-10-21T15:04:33.669+05:302016-10-21T15:04:33.669+05:30This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17532112687067702445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-4821754207648590942016-08-07T00:46:07.448+05:302016-08-07T00:46:07.448+05:30HHG - You worked hard all your life, you gave a go...HHG - You worked hard all your life, you gave a good shot at your job and in raising your kids. Now is the time to sit back and relax. HHGpop seems to be taking his retired life with a chill pill. You should to. I loved reading your narrative of HHGpop's tv time. I am in my mid-40's and stay at home with no kids. I talk to myself all the time and can relate to him very much on this.The Wandering Indianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12852957785709043786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-67690948982021729542016-08-01T19:28:08.671+05:302016-08-01T19:28:08.671+05:30L: that is what I call positive attitude. Kudos. I...L: that is what I call positive attitude. Kudos. I too am okay most of the time. I know that I would not fit into their scheme of things nor would they find a niche with me. We all want our space. The best thing would be to visit as and when possible.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-39677541301587552372016-08-01T14:12:27.224+05:302016-08-01T14:12:27.224+05:30Hi,
I follow your blog. I too taught in a college ...Hi,<br />I follow your blog. I too taught in a college and retired three years ago, and my children live away. Yes, sometimes I miss having my children, but not really. What I pray for is the strength, both physical and mental to be independent till the day I die. <br />It is very difficult to not worry about every small problem your children have, and they are sure to have them frequently. Not living with them keeps me in ignorance of their small problems and spares me a lot of stress. I hope and pray they never have any serious ones though.<br />Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03186014514110985045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-74837094368593070372016-08-01T02:45:55.244+05:302016-08-01T02:45:55.244+05:30Passerby: call me Preeta by all means as before. P...Passerby: call me Preeta by all means as before. Padma sounds distant from your mouth. Thanks for commenting. I am going through a phase of dilemma not knowing how best to utilize my time after retirement and where to actually settle down. Hence this post. You are right. There are many who go through such dilemma.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-46336026971516942802016-07-30T20:03:33.464+05:302016-07-30T20:03:33.464+05:30Hi Padma :)
I am fine, thank you.
I read your pas...Hi Padma :)<br /><br />I am fine, thank you.<br />I read your passages as and when I get time to peep here.<br />Ten years ago It was new, passion, energy zeal positive vibes, a bag of goodies I must say.<br />But all good things end and leave wonderful memories to remember and be happy, and we do want to revisit them.<br /><br /><br /><br />This post is brutally harsh .. Bitter feelings , and well written. This art of writing simple and with a pinch of salt<br />Is a quality in your writings.<br /><br />I know many who went through it and many more are going to go through it,<br />the past tells me outcome of such is only pathetic and sad and until one realises its late .. <br /><br />But this phase or way of life is here to stay , cannot be helped.<br /><br />Your question in the end is correct , and answer lies within it,<br />One must not wait for tragedy to fall and then learn, <br /><br />Rather be prepared and have a hindsight.<br /><br />Regards <br />passerbyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-27197263698759213242016-07-29T02:43:31.598+05:302016-07-29T02:43:31.598+05:30Shell: I did not mean to blame anyone for the situ...Shell: I did not mean to blame anyone for the situation. Even if my children had been living in India they wouldn't be staying with me. I'd want my independence as much as they would want theirs. But it would not matter because they can come to us immediately or maybe within hours if we need them. It won't be the same now. And as one gets on in age emergencies are likely to crop up. Just my thoughts. Don't worry too much.<br /><br />Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-13196592443791123202016-07-29T01:20:22.467+05:302016-07-29T01:20:22.467+05:30HI Grandma,
I live in the US with my husband 2 ye...HI Grandma,<br /><br />I live in the US with my husband 2 year old. My parents are in India. This post touched my heartstrings. My parents are now visiting 6 months in a year but what about the future. Based on temperament I am very suited to the US, I feel more at peace here except the constant guilt of leaving my parents alone in India.<br />We speak daily, my sister from Singapore calls them weekly. Their current schedule is 6 months US, 1 -2 months Singapore, 1 month in Chennai visiting my great grand parents and remaining in Blore with my other great grand mom. My mom continues to wish for kids living close to home, the aspiration with which she talks about my cousing really makes my feel guilty.Sometimes I wish we would return back, but apart from the usual reasons ( husbands work, kids school, my work, pollution etc.) the fact is that this feels like my home. But my mind hurts constantly. <br />Just a comment as I felt like sharing my thoughts..shellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02989661178060934806noreply@blogger.com