tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post3138728198420084740..comments2023-10-30T14:26:47.315+05:30Comments on Hip Hop Grandmom: Adjustments in a relationship.Hip Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-27956009745083916792011-01-03T22:13:16.399+05:302011-01-03T22:13:16.399+05:30jarlin:Thanks and welcome here.
Neena:Welcome her...jarlin:Thanks and welcome here.<br /><br />Neena:Welcome here.Thanks.<br /><br />Tys:Between you and me please tell me which of you two compromises and who is the one that adjusts? just joking. I thought that you stopped visiting 'cos my ramblings have become boring.Happy New Year to you too.<br /><br />rama:Thanks and wish you the same.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-16714754106555584232011-01-01T07:47:09.458+05:302011-01-01T07:47:09.458+05:30Happy New Year to you and your family!Happy New Year to you and your family!Rama Ananthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962222316822524699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-19698324248394090212010-12-30T17:04:04.686+05:302010-12-30T17:04:04.686+05:30if the want is there, the need will follow...u r r...if the want is there, the need will follow...u r rite, any adjustment has to be a mutual thing...i had written earlier abt my thoughts on compromise..i have always felt that compromise is not a win win situation..one is always the victim..<br /><br />but this is a problem that is not going to have any outside solution in the near future...a whole shift in perception has to change..<br /><br />happy new year...( been a silent visitor ...had nothing to add)Tys on Icehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09718530428063102986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-61055398954401291312010-12-30T13:06:23.871+05:302010-12-30T13:06:23.871+05:30First visit. Enjoyed. Yes, adjustment requires bot...First visit. Enjoyed. Yes, adjustment requires both sides to be flexible. But years of conditioning has made our relationships what tehy are, inflexible.Neena Sharmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497590543410077798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-11895934705734538052010-12-25T08:28:23.291+05:302010-12-25T08:28:23.291+05:30Good thoughts, well written.Good thoughts, well written.JPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18078721488888812287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-68771906890081573962010-12-24T09:42:13.256+05:302010-12-24T09:42:13.256+05:30phoenixritu:when adjustments are one sided they ou...phoenixritu:when adjustments are one sided they ought to be called compromises. And compromisers are not generally happy compromising.<br /><br />Smitha:Adjustment is a one sided expectation where the person who adjusts is constantly expected to adjust more and more which I feel is unfair.Bitterness is bound to result.<br /><br />dr. antony:Not necessarily. When there is willingness for whatever reason it is called adjustment or else it is compromise.<br /><br />rama:welcome here. How did you find me?It is not everyone who distinguishes between daughter and daughter in law. But for any relationship to flourish there has to be genuine effort. That is where adjustment comes in. When the effort is one sided bitterness follows.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-19770169602675058342010-12-23T15:03:45.116+05:302010-12-23T15:03:45.116+05:30This is my first visit to your blog. I agree with ...This is my first visit to your blog. I agree with you that a daughter in law is never treated as a daughter. I can't understand why.<br />From the very beginning there is bias against her, and tis hatred for her only increases, the more she tries to be acomadative, till a point is reached when the girl just doesn't bother what her in laws think.<br />I think it is really sad. Also I have only come across more women adjusting themselves to their husbands, suppressing everything within themselves,this too is very sad.<br />I feel only in India we generally hear of such things even among educated people.<br />However things are changing, and I am sure people of my generation would definitely not treat anybody as an outsider, nor would we be willing to give more than what we can receive in return. It has to be 50/50.Rama Ananthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00962222316822524699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-29928658938077955662010-12-21T02:05:39.648+05:302010-12-21T02:05:39.648+05:30'Adjustment" in a relationship is the pet...'Adjustment" in a relationship is the pet name for compromise.dr.antonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16191095888228061156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-14412317326300412752010-12-20T15:45:36.629+05:302010-12-20T15:45:36.629+05:30You are so spot on, HHG! Adjustments work only whe...You are so spot on, HHG! Adjustments work only when both the partners are equally committed, and working towards the same goal. More often than not, it is one person adjusting which is when things start to fall apart, or people start getting bitter and when in a position to do nothing, wait for their chance to give back what they got...Smithahttp://wordsndreamz.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-81744423562370517212010-12-20T10:50:44.491+05:302010-12-20T10:50:44.491+05:30Exactly! Adjustment has to be two sided. Otherwi...Exactly! Adjustment has to be two sided. Otherwise it is just suppression. Why should women always be expected to adjust?Phoenixrituhttp://www.phoenixritu.comnoreply@blogger.com