tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post7054779371716753702..comments2023-10-30T14:26:47.315+05:30Comments on Hip Hop Grandmom: Happy Mother's Day!!Hip Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-53713934804412482032013-05-16T08:59:09.003+05:302013-05-16T08:59:09.003+05:30Sandhya: yes it is weird that women should be disc...Sandhya: yes it is weird that women should be discriminated and men remain unaffected. Here again it ought to be women who should take up for other women. That is why I felt that we should begin with widowed mothers and it is their own children that can stand up for them.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-27049334413776490522013-05-15T15:05:00.868+05:302013-05-15T15:05:00.868+05:30It is a very weird custom. Why should widows be fo...It is a very weird custom. Why should widows be forbidden from attending or participating in auspicious occasions? I don't think widowers are subjected to such humiliation by our society. Why this discrimination? <br /><br />Another wierd custom is to forbid mothers who do not have children in participating in child-naming ceremonies or any other function related to children. They are not allowed to carry the child because it is (wrongly) believed that their ill luck will befall the child and the family. Why do we have such demeaning customs? I remember 15 years ago, when my niece was born, an aunt in whose house we had played as children came to the child-naming ceremony. She does not have children. She was so hesitant to hold my niece in arms. She was constantly looking at the guests until my mother and sister told her to carry the child in her arms and bless her. She was very happy. We women have to take a stand to put an end to demeaning customs. Sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14870097817407983036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-83513723287093106402013-05-14T11:50:00.976+05:302013-05-14T11:50:00.976+05:30AA_Mom:I thunk you are doing the right thing by as...AA_Mom:I thunk you are doing the right thing by asking your MIL to give gifts herself instead of deputing the duty on you. She is attuned to the idea that it would be inauspicious if she did the job. i don't blame her. Years of cultural conditioning needs time to overcome and shed inhibitions. keep up the good work.<br /><br />Sri: Society can be cruel to widows. your MIL needs to be very strong to ignore the sterange looks that people give her. Do your bit to help her deal with it. i am sure you will.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-76227617686525180362013-05-13T12:50:08.282+05:302013-05-13T12:50:08.282+05:30Completely agree, HHG!
Its been 2 years since my ...Completely agree, HHG!<br /><br />Its been 2 years since my FIL passed away and if my MIL attends weddings, people look at her strangely..very sad state of affairs..Srihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06359168149304225844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-33956013753755959922013-05-12T22:22:18.590+05:302013-05-12T22:22:18.590+05:30What a nice thought. My FIL passed away a year ago...What a nice thought. My FIL passed away a year ago and now my MIL wants me to give gifts on her behalf to others, If I know that the receiver (her nieces, nephews) means a lot to her, I absolutely refuse and ask her to do it herself. She does it but very reluctantly.AA_Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15567530816922483398noreply@blogger.com