tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post9199284289506001766..comments2023-10-30T14:26:47.315+05:30Comments on Hip Hop Grandmom: Gup shap - 4Hip Grandmahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-39935123359913892112008-12-30T11:24:00.000+05:302008-12-30T11:24:00.000+05:30I am so glad I read this post. I have wondered man...I am so glad I read this post. <BR/><BR/>I have wondered many a times, what changes after marriage, and how am I going to accept all those changes. <BR/><BR/>When will I realize that adjusting <BR/>is the key?<BR/>And what if I do not realize that?<BR/><BR/>I am stubborn and I guess that is the single me. I got to change that. I have to realize that this is a bad quality. <BR/><BR/>Again, lovely post.Aathira Nairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11255345206244009650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-56863977040954284242008-12-02T20:44:00.000+05:302008-12-02T20:44:00.000+05:30Lalitha:Expectation justified or otherwise leads t...Lalitha:Expectation justified or otherwise leads to disappointment. A MIL should also begin by having minimum expectations.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-13008986867523960872008-12-02T04:33:00.000+05:302008-12-02T04:33:00.000+05:30A beautiful post and I think every new bride or po...A beautiful post and I think every new bride or potential bride should read, especially take note of the fact that your motherinlaw cannot replace your mother, no matter how kind she is.You will not be disappointed or hurt if there are no expectations.starryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00250437477875291892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-78539983893136809012008-12-01T20:57:00.000+05:302008-12-01T20:57:00.000+05:30Raghu:you are right.But how many are willing to ac...Raghu:you are right.But how many are willing to accept mistakes and change?<BR/><BR/>Tys on ice:Acceptance without expectation.....mmm.quite an idealistic approach to life.You are lucky to be able to practice it.<BR/><BR/>apu:Many marriages I see around me are incompatible matches just pulling along so to say.This is perhaps because society has not recognized women as individuals with a thinking mind and sensitive heart.I don't mean to say men are never at the receiving end.They are a minority. Mutual respect not only for each other but for the two families can help. But one rarely sees this being practiced.<BR/><BR/>hillg'mom:I have a feeling that when partners are chosen by the children themselves the feel more responsible to make marriage work.Or is it the other way around with parents feeling the need to help solve problems?I am confused. May be it depends on compatibility and a willingness to adapt in a relationship, more than who arranges the match.i am going to be hooted out by our younger readers.preparing myself for it.Hip Grandmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16891699611146003601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-72260583786761849242008-12-01T14:56:00.000+05:302008-12-01T14:56:00.000+05:30Great HHG! You have said it precisely. [Some of ...Great HHG! You have said it precisely. [Some of these youngsters might say that's typical of our generation :)]hillgrandmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01805698959846687562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-80328807316387252472008-12-01T10:49:00.000+05:302008-12-01T10:49:00.000+05:30Ha. It amazes me how people can shop around for "t...Ha. It amazes me how people can shop around for "the best" as if they are evaluating tomatoes. Really, how is there an objective best? There can only be a mutually compatible and loving relationship, which in any case, most marriages don't look for - they're too busy evaluating each others looks, bank balance, caste etc etc.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-38237641711206755042008-12-01T09:49:00.000+05:302008-12-01T09:49:00.000+05:30wud u understand, when i say that to me relationsh...wud u understand, when i say that to me relationship is abt silence?...the greatest feeling i hve felt is this immense silence inside when mads is in the bedroom , reclining on the recliner( :) ), reading a book ,bathed in the yellow glow of the table lamp; rishi is in his room playing with the world he has created ; rhea is absorbing everything around her....and then theres this contentment....tht everything will be ok...<BR/><BR/>acceptance without expectations is also an important factor in a relationship, i guess....if it wasnt for that, she wud hve booted me out long ago...Tys on Icehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09718530428063102986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29858077.post-81627508507344278692008-11-30T22:42:00.000+05:302008-11-30T22:42:00.000+05:30thanks to the media and movies, most people believ...thanks to the media and movies, most people believe that life is romantic only through trips to exotic places, candle light dinners (and may be even some duets?) ;-)<BR/><BR/>Far from that, marriage or any relationship in life is a mixture of 'give and take'. <BR/><BR/>Willingness to accept your faults and change... is the only quality you need to make any relationship blossom.Raghuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00915576561252138522noreply@blogger.com