Happy Mother's Day to all of you super moms in the blogworld.Hat's off to each of you since you are dealing with a competitive world and rearing children is becoming harder by the day. Our times were easier than yours Since we had modest means we could not afford to have high hopes.I remember my father in law saying-
"I was not a graduate but I've managed to educate my children upto the undergrad level"
'So what??' I thought.
Today I may say 'I've given my children a professional education -a career oriented one'
My DIL would perhaps say 'So what's so great about it?' and this would go on and on.
Motherhood is not about how ambitious one is with regards to their chilren's future.It is about preparing them to slow down and relax. My friend's dad would say "Driving fast is no achievement. You press the accelerator and the vehicle speeds off. You should know to apply brakes at the appropriate time."
Yes driving is more about your capability of applying brakes. So in this harsh world let your children slow down a bit and appreciate all the good things around them.
Let them interact with those less privileged. They will value the good things that they have and learn not to look down upon the less fortunate among them.
Let them appreciate the beauty of nature. They will learn to conserve it.
Teach them the importance of physical labor. It will keep them fit and fine.
Encourage them to help those in need. It will make them generous human beings.
Allow them to work on their own. They may not become batch toppers. It will boost their confidence level which is definitely more important.
It is not necessary to provide them with every comfort in life. Let them work for at least a few of them.
Being ambitious is not wrong at all. Just know where to draw the line. It is not easy to say 'NO' when you have the means. We were better off that way. My son was in his first year at college when he asked us fo money to buy a second hand motorcycle.
"Who will pay for petrol?" I demanded.
"S...... has a motorcycle and his parents work in your college. They allow him to have a motorized vehicle. Please find out from them who pays for petrol in his case."
I was glad to have less money and it was easier for me to reject his application outright. This became evident when i spoke to S.......'s mother.
"He is our only son and we found it difficult to say 'no'. We spend sleepless nights thinking of the possibility of a road accident. I wish i had been strong enough to refuse at the very beginning."
Young mother's out there and other's like Lavanya who are in anticipation of the arrival of their little one have a great 'Mother's Day. It is not my intention to dampen your spirits. Just a piece of advice. Older mother's like me who have become grand mothers or likely to become one soon let us all act as checks and balances to our children. After all it is only for their own good and they are bound to understand it sooner or later. Let us celebrate the day by all means. Let us also understand the responsibilities associated with it.