Saturday, July 21, 2007

Judgmentally Yours!

The judgment tag is doing the rounds and I’ve been tagged by Just like that to come out with a few things that I Judge. Well I am a very bad judge and will end up giving the petitioner and the defendant equal marks only to be hated by both. I’ve had the experience so many times that I’ve stopped feeling bad. So here I go ‘judgmentally yours’!!

1)I judge those who make unkind remarks about a physical impairment and crack vulgar jokes referring to skin color lack or excess of height, stammering etc utterly disgusting. If you have chiseled features and a graceful gait thank your parents for handing the right set of genes to you. Here again it was chance that played a part and it could have been the other way round for you too. One can take credit for a good nature but certainly not for good features.

2)I judge those couch potatoes who not only monopolize the TV every waking hour but also imagine that they have a right to comment loudly and disturb others who may not share their interest.

3)I judge parents who approach examiners during/before or after a practical examination. In my experience the roll numbers given are thrown into the dustbin and every student who appears for the examination is marked on her performance. But parental approach undermines the ability of the child and she ends up feeling that she deserved less than the marks awarded to her. Stop approaching us parents. You are harming your child’s career in ways that you do not understand. LEAVE THEM ALONE.THEY”LL BE FINE.

4)I judge people who spit in public places. The wall of the stairs leading to our flat has paan stains at almost every turn. I hate it. Are you listening?

5)I judge teachers who take personal affront to their student’s behavior. They are children and lack experience. Very often they do not even mean what they say or do. I have it from experience that if students realize that you don’t bear them a grudge they go out of their way to make amends and end up loving you all the more for it. I am not suggesting that they should not be corrected. Once they have been reprimanded forget the incident and forgive them. It yields wonderful results.

6)I judge those who remain silent spectators when you make mistakes and are quick to point out when things go wrong. The ‘I thought as much’ look annoys me.

7)I judge mothers who do not tell their daughters that marriage is not what one reads about in Mills and Boon novels. Girls who enter matrimony struggle more than their counterparts who know what to expect of it.

8)I judge husbands who watch TV or read the newspaper when visitors arrive and expect their wives to entertain them. “I don’t know what to talk is” the common excuse. Mister! Please understand that your wife is no superwoman. She was not born holding a microphone in her hand. If she is preparing tea or taking out snacks it is your job to hold a polite conversation with the guest/s. More so if he/she is your relative or office colleague.

9)I judge men/women who do not share their mental agony, financial or otherwise with their better halves. I have known men who would borrow money at absurd interest rates rather than admit they do not have money to spare to buy new clothes for a festival. “She would not understand” is what they say. Be honest with her and may be she will. You are not doing the right thing by not telling her at all. Similarly wives hide their health related issues from the husband and very often the problem aggravates and the entire family suffers.

10)Finally I object to my husband treating me as if I were a teenager just out of school. He asks me if I have enough money every time I leave the house and reminds me to fill up the petrol tank of my car after a stipulated lapse of time. Agreed, he is 8 years older than me but if he has retired am I also not close to retirement. Why not let me run out of cash and petrol once in a while? May be I’ll learn from experience. Please don’t take his side. Remember that after all you are my friends!!

17 comments:

Altoid said...

LOL, loved the last one. Certainly, we are YOUR friends and will dharna to make sure you get trained in filling up all on your own.

Though, seriously, I can tell ya...sometimes I feel I wish I did have someone who'd fill 'er up and hand the keys. Sounds grand and chivalrous :D.

Let me get back to the dharna then!

--altoid

WhatsInAName said...

I just finished my homework on judgements too :)
I am so sorry, but I cant help liking your last dislike! haha!

Usha said...

Share many of those too although I do not stop with judging but avoid them!
As for the last one, what can I say? "nalladukku kalam illai!" hehe

Ardra said...
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Ardra said...

I realise I share some of your 'judgments'.

I too have made a list of my judgments and of those whom I admire...

Lavs said...

You know what HGmom, my hubby holds my hand and tells me how to cross the road. Though I feel irritated at times, I understand that it is his way of expressing his love for me.

Monika said...

i am abs on ur side on the last one... all men are same in this... i guess this is how men in our country are brought up... they have to provide for and protect their women though times have changed this is taking a little longer to change as usual :)

vishesh said...

/*5)I judge teachers who take personal affront to their student’s behavior. They are children and lack experience. Very often they do not even mean what they say or do. I have it from experience that if students realize that you don’t bear them a grudge they go out of their way to make amends and end up loving you all the more for it. I am not suggesting that they should not be corrected. Once they have been reprimanded forget the incident and forgive them. It yields wonderful results.*/



thats a important point...like how teachers judge students from their experiences we too do...after all we have also been studying for so many years,so we know how teachers are...

but end of the everyone is knew,and if we have made a mistake we realise it.....if only they would kind as to just point out...rather than putting it in cruder way...

The Visitor said...

G'ma being deprived of valuable experience by G'pa. LOL.
G'ma there is another side to it - if you run out of petrol, it would compound G'pa's problems - he'd not only have to worry about how to get you home, he would also have to worry about getting the car home. :D

Hip Grandma said...

altoid:Thanx.And make sure you call the press.We as a couple would make front page news'

whatsinaname:Saw your list and liked it.Too bad taking my hubs side.I thought you were MY friend.

Usha:you're right.best to avoid themThe 'nallavar' bug me with his concern'Other examples are 'The cooker has whistled twice!may I put off the gas?I think I could handle a 'polladavar' better.

ardra:Went through both your lists.Good ones.BTW I remember your tag.will soon respond.got hold of a family aklbum.

lavs:I too understand the concern behind his query.But with our children away we do need to drive each other nuts don't we?

monika:Thanks,glad you get my point.

vishesh:teachers like other human beings come in all shades and hues.I remember being scolded by a teacher for no reason when I was in class 3.I remember feeling very upset.

the visitor:Taking g'pa's side are you?You shud know by now that I can walk back home if need be.

Anonymous said...

gmom:

"the visitor:Taking g'pa's side are you?You shud know by now that I can walk back home if need be. "

i think the visitor's point was more like whether you would mind pushing the car home (by yourself) ;-).

- s.b.

Just Like That said...

hahaha G'Mom I loved this post. G'pa is really too bad, not letting you learn from your mistakes! Lol! Am definitely on your side- your post indeed reminds me of my driving lessons from Hubby dearest.

They really do drive us nuts, don't they? But you have to agree, Cadburys Fruit and Nut chocolate is much better than plain chocolate.

Sunita said...

I sure will take it up. It should be fun, I only wonder when would I be able to click publish.

shark said...

lol! I also can't help loving the last point :)
Oh yes I am on your side :) Especially when it comes to the car I think all husbands are like this. Mine also is no different... When we drive together somewhere, I am supposed to switch on the wiper in a particular speed as he suggests!

All this, when it was me who taught him to drive in the first place *tch* *tch* :)

artnavy said...

Oh i agree so much on the spitting and taking digs on the physical bit- it is an insult to one's genes and therefore one's parents....

i also agree with the over concern bit but it is better than being the "man" always

Hip Grandma said...

anon:No my dear.I'd never have pushed the car back home.I'd have bought a liter of petrol from the nearest petrol bunk but wait a sec.I wouldn't have got into such a situation in the first place.

Just like that:Thanks.I knew I could count on you.But jokes apart I do feel let down on days that he forgets to ask me.Thoroughly spoilt I think.

sunita:Take your time I know you are busy.

shark:these husbands love playing the guardian.Out of habit my husband started directing the auto driver and I had to remind him that it was not his wife at the wheel.

artnavy:I truly feel that those who hurt people with their so called jokes need to be boycotted.Who do they think they are??The over concern has now become part of my life.But it does irk me at times.

Random Vignettes said...

I absolutely loved loved loved your last point!! Cannot agree with it more. 4 years elder to me, K behaves like an over protective grandfather sometimes and while I reaaly like the fact he cares, I wish he wouldnt do it all the time!!Good to know I am not the only one :)