Hip Hop Grandmom
A 65 year old, grandma of four, mother of three, daughter of two and wife of one. I'm also a writer, botanist, teacher and volunteer.
Monday, December 07, 2020
Mother of tags
Artnavy has tagged me to write a post on being a mother. She was tagged by Boo who in turn was tagged by HBM who is hoping to connect blogging Mothers all over the world in 80 clicks. The rules are-
Just write a post of your own (5 things that you love about being a mom) and find someone to link to and tag - someone from your own country, if you like, but definitely someone from another country - and link back here and leave a comment.
It feels strange to write about my experience as a mom now that I’ve become a grand mom 4 times over and have almost forgotten what it felt like being a mom. I’ll try my best but can’t promise to do a great job of it.
I became a mom first and a wife and daughter in law later. Now before your devious minds start imagining things let me add that I only became and daughter in law in a real sense only after my daughter Priya was born. My post ‘striking roots’ in three parts, reflects my mood as a young girl in a strange situation and was never a part of the family I married into till my little girl arrived. And her arrival helped me bond with the very people who were strangers to me till she arrived on the scene. Suddenly my MIL became my ‘amma’ and my sister in law a dear friend. To my sister in law Priya was the sister she had lost to accident years back and the whole family was dancing to her tune. My schizophrenic brother in law was never vocal but his affection for the child had to be seen to be believed. Thanks to Priya till date I share a rapport with my in laws and I love them all as much as I love my own family. I am sure my in laws felt that way too.
If Priya ensured that I found acceptance from my family it was my second daughter Prasanna who helped me bond with my husband. Yes, one can be a wife and yet not be one. Circumstances forced me to leave my 6 month old child, recovering from a bout of pneumonia, with my mother for a whole year. With her weak sight my mother could not have handled the responsibility of raising a six month old child. It was my sister Vijaya who pitched in to help.It was not easy either. The child would fall sick and visit to the doctor, administering medicines were all responsibilities that my sister took up apart from giving her food and generally keeping an eye on her. I missed watching her take her first step, speak her first word and God knows how much I missed her. My sister used to keep me updated with news about the child. We did not have a telephone connection then and it was only through letters that I got to learn about her progress. Waiting with me for letters from Gobichettipalayam was my husband whose first question when he returned from work would be if there was any news from Gobi about his darling daughter. We would go through the letter over and over again and imagine the situations described in the letter. If my sister in law helped me raise Priya, it was my sister who took care of her even without me being present.
I had until then known him to be a dutiful son but he suddenly became an affectionate father and a concerned husband. He also began to bond with my family when my second daughter was left in their care and today my siblings and their better halves take his side and ditch me whenever they get a chance. Very bad of them, don’t you think so too?
Bringing up my son Rahul was an entirely different experience. By the time he was born my MIL had passed away, sister in law was married and busy raising her own children and I had to bring him up on my own. Mrs. Sinha who lived in the flat below ours was my deputy and he only had to cry a little and she’d come running to find out what was wrong. He’d call Mr. Sinha ‘ uncle papaji’ and spend a good deal of his time in their house. I started working full time when he turned two and it was Mrs. Sinha who made sure that he ate his food properly and generally kept an eye on him when I was away.
Thanks to my children, I was able to understand the joy of being part of a joint family and it give me immense pleasure to remember the love and affection showered on them by one and all.
They’ve risen to the occasion and have supported me when I needed them if they had any complaints at least they’ve kept it to themselves.
What are they up to now one may ask? How does it feel to be the mother of grown up children?
Well, now I wonder if I am their mother or if it is the other way around.
They are now my guardian angels. Their weekly phone call begins with ‘Did you go for your walk? Are you careful about your diet’? Their concern is touching.
They are my friends. The three of them just have to get together and we can talk till midnight and I get regularly treated to their view on a good number of issues.
I love them because I see an extension of myself in them. Priya and Rahul for their love for books. Prasanna for her patience and perseverance. I just cannot imagine life without them and to me motherhood has been a wonderful experience.
Being busy with their lives they do not get time to read my blog which is good in a way. I don’t want them to get puffed up with pride so we won’t tell them anything about what I really think of them would we?
Now I have to tag people.
I tag
Usha of agelessbonding to share her experiences as the mother of an only son.
Gauri of tiny tidbits whose children seem to be little charms. Also she lives in Hong Kong so that way I’d be tagging someone living in a foreign country.
Monika who I am sure has a lot to share about her experiences as the mother of Ojas.
Dotm of dot’s thoughts for being the most experienced of us all.
And finally eve’s lung who has been quiet for quite sometime now.
There are other wonderful mothers out there and if anyone else like JLT or Rajk wishes to take it up please do so.
Saturday, April 27, 2019
Gobi Chronicles - 4
Gobi Chronicles - 4
I had decided to dedicate a
separate post to Moopachi – the house help who worked for more than 40 years in
Vembathy House. As a child I could not imagine the cleaning of Vembathy House
being taken up by anyone else. Loud mouthed but efficient is the way I would
describe her. She exercised an authority over us as much as over her
grandchildren who could not get away with shoddy work. She considered the house
as her own. They had to clean the cowshed, sweep and swab, empty leftover food into
vessels of their own and soak them in water to be washed by their grandmother. She
would supervise their work and would let them leave for school only after they
finished their assigned chores to her satisfaction.
As a teenager I would be asked to
help her with washing clothes. Those were days when detergents were unheard of
and one had to apply sunlight soap on the clothes. Washing clothes by beating them on a stone
fixed near the well and scrubbing extra dirty parts with her hands she’d wash
and rinse them clean and dry them out on the clothesline without a crease. One
could not find fault with her work. It was her constant chattering (read
grumbling) that one had to ignore. No one actually paid attention to her.
Moopachi had 4 children. Two boys
and two girls. Her husband worked as a farm hand who climbed up palm trees and
plucked coconuts. I don’t remember ever seeing him. The story goes that Moopachi’s
daughter Kanni was widowed at the age of sixteen and my maternal grandmother
cried for days together thinking of the kind of life destiny had dished out to
her. She had a four month old son to look after. I wouldn’t know if Moopachi
helped her with money but I was amused at her patriarchal mindset when her
granddaughter (son’s daughter) Dhana
married her grandson (daughter’s son).
Once Dhana got married she was
forbidden to work for us the reason being that she was now married and the
privilege of working for our family belonged to her son’s family.
“She is not our responsibility anymore”. She would say when I asked
about Dhana.
The leftover food, cow dung to be
dried and used as fuel or as manure and the dry palm leaves that she took home
would be given to her son’s family. So also were given tamarind, lentils and pickle from
the previous year’s stock once a fresh consignment arrived. So what if she was
not on talking terms with her daughter in law, all the hand me down saris and
children’s clothes would be duly handed over to her !
“But Kanni is your widowed daughter! How can you grudge her the benefit
of stuff like used clothes, cow dung or dry palm leaves?” I’d ask.
Her reply set me thinking.
“I had to let her find her way. If I had helped her out she would never
have learnt to fend for herself and her son. My sons would have resented her
presence in our house. Today she has her self respect intact and shares a good
bond with her brothers and their wives. They will there for her at the time of
need even when I am long gone.”
“But you don’t even talk to your daughter in law and yet you keep track
of their requirements.” I found it difficult to understand the equation in
their family.
“Oh, yes. We do quarrel but she is still my son’s wife. If I fall sick
she is the one who’d look after me. So why should I not think of her welfare?”
I admit that I still do not
understand the logic behind letting a widowed daughter fend for herself and
helping a son who was earning enough to support his family. But society was
perhaps different sixty years ago. She was perhaps investing in her own future
by being helpful to her son’s family.
Soon after my marriage Moopachi
stopped working for us. But her granddaughters continued to work for us till
they got married.
I had left my daughter in Gobi
with my mother for a year when she was just six months old. Moopachi’s
granddaughters would pester their mother to hurry up with milking their cow and
bring fresh cow’s milk for her to drink early in the morning. They would play
with her for a while after finishing their work. When I brought her back to
Jamshedpur, I was surprised to receive a letter from Kannamma (Moopachi’s
granddaughter) who was perhaps in class 8 or 9.
“Don’t let her play in water” she had written. “She easily catches a cold. “
She went on to describe how much
everyone in our joint family missed her. All our neighbors were upset that the
child was sent back.
She ended the letter with the
following line-
“She was such a good kid. Looking after her was no trouble at all. We
all miss her a lot. The house seems empty without her. Please bring her over as
soon as possible. We would love to have her in our midst”.
I was in tears on reading her
letter. The grandmother worked for us and watched my mother and her siblings
grow and settle down in life. We were like family to her. The same spirit
prevailed in her grandchildren too.
After Moopachi’s granddaughters got married some others worked for Vembathy
house. But the bond was missing. My own visits became less frequent. I miss the
days when house helps were like family. They welcomed us on our arrival. They
were there to see us off.
“Take care, Come again”.
This was what our maternal uncle,
aunt and cousins said. But it was also what Moopachi, Pavayee and the entire
neighborhood said. It is the affection showered on us by these simple folks that draws me to Gobi
even after 46 years of life in Jamshedpur. I am lucky to have hired domestic
helps who have bonded with me like family. It was mainly due to the respect my
mother and aunts accorded to those who worked for us that I was able to extend
it to people who worked for me. I am glad to say that I have passed it on to my
children too. They are our lifeline. They neither complain about the monotony
that sets in when they sweep, swab and clean nor do we think of it as worth a
mention. Only when they take a day off do we realize their worth and value.
Moopachi must be smiling from up
above to see me, now a grandmother of 4 adorable grandkids, fondly remembering the
days gone by when she’d buzz in and out of Vembathy House.
Wednesday, April 03, 2019
Gobi Chronicles -3
Gobi Chronicles -3
I begin the
third episode of Gobi Chronicles with two people who worked for us when I was a
teenager. The cook Narayana Mama and the domestic help Moopacchi. I have
mentioned them in an earlier post.
I have already
said that Gobi and Vembathy House has a kind of inclusive air that welcomes
each newcomer into its fold and in no time the new entrants become part of the
family. Narayana mama was no exception. Before he took up his service as the cook
in Vembathy House the kitchen and cooking was taken care of by Ganapathy Mama
but I don’t remember much about him.
Narayana Mama
was a native of Madurai. He lived alone in a small outhouse adjoining the well.
His entire salary of Rs. 40/- per month was sent by money order to his wife in
Madurai. I wouldn’t know if Thatha gave him any ‘petty cash’ or pocket money
but he seemed to be quite happy and content with all his needs being taken care
of except perhaps his addiction to snuff!
Narayana mama
was appointed as cook but soon proved himself as ‘Jack of all trades’. He loved
Kamakshi mami like a daughter. He was very fond of my cousin Balaji and took it
upon himself to keep him engaged while mami took a nap and rested in the
afternoon. He attended to practically any and everything from trimming the
wicks of the kerosene stove or standing in a line to get sugar and kerosene oil
that was distributed at the ration shop. During summer vacations Vembathy House
would be teeming with grandchildren apart from those who lived there because
their fathers had transferable jobs and thatha offered to school them in Gobi.
Narayana mama would cook for the family without a frown on his face and one
quite forgot that he was a paid help. I have fond memories of the sweets and
savories he would prepare for me to take back to my hostel.
Narayana mama was
a staunch supporter of Rajaji and voted for Swatantra party during elections. Our
domestic help Moopachi belonged to the Nadar community and Kamaraj Nadar was a
respected politician from the Congress party. Narayana mama could indulge in
heated discussions about the merits of Swatantra Party and the demerits of
Congress. Ladle in hand he could rush into my grandfather’s office to offer his
opinion on political issues and blame Moopachi’s anna(older brother) Kamaraj
Nadar for anything that went wrong. I was never into politics but I would find
it amusing to see him discuss politics with Moopachi! The poor woman hardly
understood government policies and political issues but was not the one to back
off and let her ‘anna’ be blamed. She’d respond in the only way she could by
claiming that the coffee he gave her tasted like gutter water!
“So you know how
gutter water tastes” Mama would gloat. “The entire family feeds on our leftover
food and she has the gumption to find fault with my coffee”.
For all their
outward show of animosity Moopachi and Narayana Mama also had a mutual concern
for each other. After helping their grandmother Moopachi’s grandchildren would eat
the food left over from the previous night’s dinner before leaving for school.
So mama would prepare a little extra to ensure that they had enough to eat.
My dad was ill
and was to be operated at the military hospital in New Delhi. My mother who was
in Jalandhar was in a fix as to where my younger brothers aged 5 and 3 could be
left for her to be able to be by my father’s side. Narayana Mama relieved her, offering to look after the children. He had to change trains at Madras and
Delhi to reach Jalandhar. It was winter time, he knew no Hindi and with his smattering
knowledge of English and no one to receive him at Delhi he reached Jalandhar
around midnight to take charge of two pre-school kids. This proved that he
could not only rise to the occasion but also that he considered all of us to be
his kith and kin. Unfortunately he took ill soon after and after 10 years of selfless service, thatha had
to send him back to his family in Madurai.
Domestic help is
hard to find these days and I happen to be one of the lucky ones. All those who
ever worked for me have been dry honest and wouldn’t pick up and pocket a
safety pin lying around. I meant to write about Moopachi in this post but the
woman who worked for our family for over forty years deserves a separate post.
So more in a later post.
Tuesday, March 26, 2019
The Lazy Me...........
I am a reluctant shopper. I really am. I have a few
indulgent friends who help me shop for clothes and accessories. Very often I don’t
even go myself and let them pick up stuff on my behalf. For veggies and grocery
I drive my husband to the market, park the car under a tree and read a book or
the day’s newspaper. He happily does the marketing. The reason for this is my
husband’s choice of time. He likes to shop around 12 noon which is the hottest
time of the day. He says that fresh vegetables arrive at the market around that
time. To my credit I must say that I am
easy to please and have no complaints against his choice. When we are done and
return home we have to deal with school buses and vans and auto rickshaws, loaded
with children, as well as the company employees speeding up to arrive at their
workplace for the afternoon shift. So I truly find even the minimum shopping (of
the absolutely essential kind) cumbersome. As far as grocery and
vegetable/fruits are concerned husband would veto the idea of door delivery. I
order books and test strips for my glucometer from Amazon. Haven’t tried
clothes and accessories yet.
So when my son and daughter in law launched chicshop.in in
Mumbai I couldn’t help wishing that such a service was available in Jamshedpur.
It combines online shopping with a personal interaction with stylists over
Whatsapp who send images of the item and give one an idea not only about the
material but also other choices for their requirement available in the same or nearby store. A local delivery
service delivers stuff picked up before 12:30 PM on the same day while orders
after noon are dispatched on the following day. It is a boon for mothers of toddlers and school going children, working
women as well as men who would appreciate a little help while planning a
surprise gift for their women. Grandmothers like me nursing an arthritic knee
can use the service to lavish gifts on their grandchildren, nieces, daughters
and daughters in law.
So while I wish my son all the best in his endeavor I also
secretly hope that it grows and reaches out to small towns like ours.
Friday, March 22, 2019
The Spice of Life - 2
The Spice of Life -2
I have decided to write again. Hibernation over and back to
action. I begin as usual with my favorite topic “The Spice of My Life”. Yes,
you’ve guessed it. MDH and his regular habit of driving me nuts.
My husband is plumber, mason and electrician all rolled in
one. No, I have no problem with it at all. I gave up any effort to get someone
to fix leaky taps and broken tiles long back. He will not hear of it and insist
on doing it himself. I am secretly in awe of his interest in learning new
skills but we won’t tell him that right now. He will get all puffed up and try
his hand on yet another new venture.
“So what’s your problem”? you may ask. None at all if he
worked on his own. He needs an assistant and who else would be willing to dance
to his tune except me.
Let me explain…….
The condenser of the ceiling fan had to be replaced. Till
about a fortnight ago we didn’t need the fan. Now that summer’s here fans need
to run at full speed. He got the condenser from the store and set about
replacing it. The center table was brought in and positioned below the fan. A
stool was placed on top of it and MDH climbed over it. I was concerned about
his safety and to be able to hold the stool I asked him to give me a minute to
finish my cooking……………
"It won’t take more than a minute" was his response.
I switched off the gas and dutifully held the stool while constantly craning my neck to see what he was up to.
“Get me the screw driver”…
“Which one? You have screw drivers of four sizes”.
“The red one”.
“The long red or small red”?
“You’ve seen me at work all your life and yet you ask”….
A part of me – the wicked me - felt like leaving him right
there to get back to my cooking. But his safety was also a concern.
“Will you be safe while I fetch your tool box”?
I decided to get the entire thing to be able to hand him a
screw driver or spanner of his choice.
That done he next asks for a torch. I truly get bugged when
at the age of 76 he stands with his head a foot above the fan asking for one or
the other thing. I am in perpetual fear of his getting hurt.
A torch, a blade, a screw
driver or an adhesive tape – the list is long.
We then start quarreling like school children.
I am asked to flash the torch at an angle suitable to him.
“You are blocking the light” I say.
He has to get down and re-position the center table/stool
combo. He climbs up and I flash the torch again.
After 4 to 6 trials he gets frustrated and takes the torch
from me and holding the screw driver between his teeth flashes the torch
himself. Once the location of the old condenser is identified he returns the
torch to me and with proper instruction I manage to get the angle right.
Handing him the blade and taking it back…
The long screw driver once and the smaller one later…..
Constantly looking up is painful in the actual and
figurative sense…..
Worrying about his safety has my blood pressure soaring…….
Finally after half an hour the task that was meant to be
accomplished in a minute gets over and he climbs down beaming with satisfaction. I wonder if it wasn't easier to get an electrician to do it.
To top it he asks if lunch was ready and when I ask to be
given a couple of minutes...….
His response is-
“What were you doing all this while”?
“Dancing to your music” is my reply.
And I hope you agree that I was doing just that.
Wednesday, October 25, 2017
Gup shup ??
Long since I wrote anything. In the initial years of blogging I would find something or the other to write about. The blog became a platform to express my views and to connect with like minded people across the world. I made a few friends some of whom are my Facebook friends now. Somehow blogging is no longer the passion it used to be ten years ago. I wrote for Women’s web too. These days I seem to be doing nothing. My arthritic knee keeps troubling me and a morning stroll is all I seem to manage. The house is clamouring for attention and I keep postponing the minimum cleaning it deserves.
I sometimes wonder what's gotten into me. Nothing seems to interest me. It's ages since I listened to music. Yesudas was a favourite. I used to love his Krishna and Ayyappa songs. I enjoyed the wit and humour in Jayantisri ‘s talks that dealt with topics that interest me too. I am not into reading books. At least not as much as I used to. The last book I read was Sita by Amish and that was two months back. I have a book by Tom Wolf that I want to complete reading having startedit. It is interesting. But reading 735 pages in fine print may not be a challenge I can or want to take up. I think I will look for something less daunting.
I need to shake myself out of this state of inertia. To start with I think I will shorten the nightie that my daughter gave me and alter the Kameez that is a wee bit loose around the chest. And I am going to work at making myself look presentable each evening. All those starched and ironed saris in my wardrobe need to be aired out and what better way than to wear them in turns. But then I always associate getting dressed up with going out. In the comfort of my home I just cannot get decked up. I need to wear soft, loose and comfortable dresses. If I dress up in an ironed sari I need to go out. But the thought of climbing down the stairs puts me off. At least for me climbing down is harder than climbing up. Maybe once our lift is installed I may socialize more. I had plans of starting a small interactive session for ladies who wish to get comfortable with spoken English which could later get transformed to a place where they could exchange notes regarding house keeping and counsel each other about problems faced by them with teenaged children and a demanding school curriculum. This would keep me engaged and my saris would be put to use. Hopefully our lift would get installed soon.
I wonder if this happens to others too? After years of busy schedule and active life why this slow down? Do I miss my work life so much that nothing seems to replace it? Or is it just a part of the ageing process?
Whatever it is I need to get going. This is certainly not the kind of life I want to lead. Wish me luck. Once I get active I may have more to write in my blog.
I sometimes wonder what's gotten into me. Nothing seems to interest me. It's ages since I listened to music. Yesudas was a favourite. I used to love his Krishna and Ayyappa songs. I enjoyed the wit and humour in Jayantisri ‘s talks that dealt with topics that interest me too. I am not into reading books. At least not as much as I used to. The last book I read was Sita by Amish and that was two months back. I have a book by Tom Wolf that I want to complete reading having startedit. It is interesting. But reading 735 pages in fine print may not be a challenge I can or want to take up. I think I will look for something less daunting.
I need to shake myself out of this state of inertia. To start with I think I will shorten the nightie that my daughter gave me and alter the Kameez that is a wee bit loose around the chest. And I am going to work at making myself look presentable each evening. All those starched and ironed saris in my wardrobe need to be aired out and what better way than to wear them in turns. But then I always associate getting dressed up with going out. In the comfort of my home I just cannot get decked up. I need to wear soft, loose and comfortable dresses. If I dress up in an ironed sari I need to go out. But the thought of climbing down the stairs puts me off. At least for me climbing down is harder than climbing up. Maybe once our lift is installed I may socialize more. I had plans of starting a small interactive session for ladies who wish to get comfortable with spoken English which could later get transformed to a place where they could exchange notes regarding house keeping and counsel each other about problems faced by them with teenaged children and a demanding school curriculum. This would keep me engaged and my saris would be put to use. Hopefully our lift would get installed soon.
I wonder if this happens to others too? After years of busy schedule and active life why this slow down? Do I miss my work life so much that nothing seems to replace it? Or is it just a part of the ageing process?
Whatever it is I need to get going. This is certainly not the kind of life I want to lead. Wish me luck. Once I get active I may have more to write in my blog.
Thursday, June 29, 2017
Domestic violence -The other side of the story
Amma,
I am not sure if this letter will
be well received. You are bound to feel upset and I won’t be surprised if you
call me a ‘hen pecked’ husband. But I have to make my point and leave it to you
to save the situation if you feel that I am right. Or rather that I am not
wrong.
Point no. 1- Mine was not a love
marriage. You chose Rashmi for me and I went by your choice. You wanted a fair,
well educated girl from a decent upper middle class family to take charge of
the household after you. I had no say in the matter and was regularly told that
you and appa as parents would select a girl who would double up for the
daughter you never had. It is quite another thing that you were supposed to
bring me a wife – not a sister. Till today I have not complained. Yes, she has
her shortcomings but then I have mine too. In the two year of our marriage we
are still getting to know each other. Why don’t you do the same and try to
understand things from her perspective?
Point no. 2. – Is it fair that
you expect her to cook a fresh meal three times a day considering the long
hours she puts in at her office? You won’t let her hire someone to cook, you
will neither let me help nor offer to help her yourself and yet find fault with
her for not serving a freshly cooked five course meal for dinner. To top it you
find the ‘dal’ salty and the ‘sabzi’ bland. How can you expect a girl who spent
six years in two different hostels to take over the entire responsibility of
running a household as per your terms? She needs time to pick up our ways.
Point no. 3 – Why do you bring up
her parents all the time? It is always ‘her mother didn’t teach her to cook’ or
‘her father pampered her so much that she hasn’t learnt to adjust’. You never
seem satisfied with the gifts they lavish on me. The suit they gave for my
first Deepavali was ‘not worth giving to our driver’ and the diamond ring ‘had
to be cross checked at our jewelers for its worth’ after all ‘it may not be
real diamonds’. Do gifts really matter? It is just a token gesture. Don't I earn enough?How does it matter? If you keep on finding
fault with everything they do, will she ever bond with you? They are her
parents. She left her home and parents to share her life with me. But that does
not mean that she is no longer their daughter. You resent the phone call she
makes to her people, you resent the occasional outing that she plans with her
friends and it may not be wrong to say that you resent her very presence in our
house.
You were not like this before.
How has the equation changed after Rashmi came into our lives? You chose a wife
for me with utmost care but nowadays your day begins with complaints about her
and ends with more complaints against her. Appa is better. He is not as
insecure as you.
Do you think that I can relax in
the privacy of my bedroom? Rashmi takes over from where you left and subjects
me to another round of torture by saying nasty things about you. I truly cannot
believe what she says. Did you really add salt to the dal only to later
complain that it was salty? And were you actually hiding behind the door and
listening to her phone conversation?
I was better off without this
mess called marriage. Am I not entitled to a quiet evening, with both of you
being cordial to each other, where we can all sit together sipping tea and
enjoying a normal conversation? If I pay attention to you she pulls a long face
and if I go out for a short evening walk with her you get upset. While women can talk
about domestic violence I can neither utter a word nor expect you to understand
what I go through. People don’t talk about the emotional and mental torture a
man goes through when he is caught in the crossfire between his parents and
wife. Believe me, it affects my performance at work and my interaction with
those around me.
Please try to understand…………………………
I just want some peace of mind
and unfortunately it cannot be ordered online.
This is my final submission for the blogathon # A letter to her . I wrote this piece because I felt that men also suffer in silence and experience the torture of being pulled in opposite directions by two women both clamoring for their attention. I wouldn't know if it qualifies to be called Domestic Violence. But it does cause a lot of agony and impacts their lives in ways that no one wishes to understand.
Note: I would like to read MeenaKandaswamy’s book When I Hit You because I understand that it deals with domestic violence that happens everywhere but society refuses to admit it. I would love to read what the author has to say and I hope it helps me extend a helping hand to any victim of domestic violence whom I come across.
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